We can hold pain in different ways, allowing it to sit within as a physical symptom, or as a mental health issue, often visible in one's eyes. Recognising our own pain is important; why it exists...but more importantly, what we do with it is more important.

So how do people deal with their pain? Some can't shift it. Their pain is so great that it's like a bottle that they continually work on emptying but life's experiences keep filling up for them, others are more fortunate ... they say they manage to let go of their pain completely.

They may guide you towards incidents to help make sure that you experience that same pain or negative experience. It's in your interest to recognise such people in your life as soon as possible ... and to skirt around them as much as possible.
The people that you should listen too and learn from are the ones that close the circle on their pain. They'll still experience it but they won't want you to go through the same pain; they'll help you to recognise the pitfalls and negotiate a safer path around the problem.
How do you recognise them? Language can be a good indicator; what people talk about and how they talk about it.
Some people swear out of frustration or when they get passionate about something ... don't be offended by them, listen to what they're saying around the expletives. Other people will swear at you, perhaps for no good reason; they're the ones to avoid.
Some people use the word 'hate' a lot without realising the negative energy that the word pulls in. Hate for me is something very deep and self-destructive. I choose not to hate, I choose to dislike, it stops me getting tied in to a bad energy - there's too much hatred circling human societies through, wars, crime, corruption and other injustices ... let alone family tragedies. I don't use the word hate, even with all of my life experiences and the injustices that I've experienced.

Villayat 'Wolf' Sunkmanitu