It's nothing personal ... just the politics of dancing ...
I was talking to a couple of the guys at salsa and it was interesting to hear other guys saying the same things about some of the ladies that we dance with. I think that a lot of the guys that do dance salsa and bachata tend to be on the sensetive side and that's lost on some of the ladies ... and it comes across in their attitudes on the dance floor.
So this is my way of saying, 'don't worry mate - just dance with someone that wants to dance with you'. ;o)
You'll meet all sorts. Some will blame you for not leading well, even though they're not interpreting the tune and thinking for themselves as to whether the beat will allow them one spin or two at a given spot. Some will literally clash with you on the floor - hence bumping uglies - literally. Some will bounce and prance and forget that the extra bits of jiggling take more time if you don't compensate for them with a bit more speed ... and they'll end up out of sync with you. Some won't appreciate that you're coreographing the moves on the fly for both of you ... and that you are actually leading, as well as keeping them safe from collisions ... and that you need your dance partner to be in a particular place at a particular time ... or you're going to be out of time (for which you might be blamed ... again) BUT ...
Every now and then you'll meet beginners that have some natural ability and will be grateful for a chance to practise new things with you ... but THE best thing to happen on that floor is when you meet those dancers that move in perfect sync with you. They know the music, the timing, their own bodies and capabilities .. and the dance flows between you both ... and that's chemistry! Two souls become one, lost in the music - smiling, grinning, laughing ... and even if you do make a mistake. you both laugh it off and get back in sync really quickly. Dance for those moments ... and try not to be put off by the other events? Remember the dance isn't just about being able to lead, it's also about the woman's ability to follow ;o) You can't get on with everyone in the world, there are so many different personalities out there ... so don't expect to get on with everyone when you dance ...
wolf
So this is my way of saying, 'don't worry mate - just dance with someone that wants to dance with you'. ;o)
You'll meet all sorts. Some will blame you for not leading well, even though they're not interpreting the tune and thinking for themselves as to whether the beat will allow them one spin or two at a given spot. Some will literally clash with you on the floor - hence bumping uglies - literally. Some will bounce and prance and forget that the extra bits of jiggling take more time if you don't compensate for them with a bit more speed ... and they'll end up out of sync with you. Some won't appreciate that you're coreographing the moves on the fly for both of you ... and that you are actually leading, as well as keeping them safe from collisions ... and that you need your dance partner to be in a particular place at a particular time ... or you're going to be out of time (for which you might be blamed ... again) BUT ...
Every now and then you'll meet beginners that have some natural ability and will be grateful for a chance to practise new things with you ... but THE best thing to happen on that floor is when you meet those dancers that move in perfect sync with you. They know the music, the timing, their own bodies and capabilities .. and the dance flows between you both ... and that's chemistry! Two souls become one, lost in the music - smiling, grinning, laughing ... and even if you do make a mistake. you both laugh it off and get back in sync really quickly. Dance for those moments ... and try not to be put off by the other events? Remember the dance isn't just about being able to lead, it's also about the woman's ability to follow ;o) You can't get on with everyone in the world, there are so many different personalities out there ... so don't expect to get on with everyone when you dance ...
wolf
